But the gospel, brought home to your heart by the Spirit, can make you happy enough to be humble, giving you an internal fullness that frees you to be generous with the other even when you are not getting the satisfaction you want out of the relationship. Without the help of the Spirit, without a continual refilling of your soul's tank with the glory and love of the Lord, such submission to the interests of the other is virtually impossible to accomplish for any length of time without becoming resentful. I call this "love economics." You can only afford to be generous if you actually have some money in the bank to give. In the same way, if your only source of love and meaning is your spouse, then anytime he or she fails you, it will not just cause grief but a psychological cataclysm. If, however, you know something of the work of the Spirit in our life, you have enough love "in the bank" to be generous to your spouse even when you are not getting much affection or kindness at the moment.
The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller, p. 56
We make a living by what we gain, but we live life by what we give.
주님안에 충만하길
When you begin to talk to wounded people, it is not long before they begin talking about themselves. They're so engrossed in their own pain and problems that they don't realize what they look like to others. They are not sensitive to the needs of others. They don't pick up the cues of those who are hurting, or, if they do, they only do so in a self-involved way. That is, they do so with a view of helping to "rescue" them in order to feel better about themselves. They get involved with others in an obsessive and controlling way because they are actually meeting their own needs, though they deceive themselves about this. We are always, always the last to see our self-absorption. Our hurts and wounds can make our self-centeredness even more intractable. When you point out selfish behavior to a wounded person, he or she will say, "Well, maybe so, but you don't understand what it is like." The wounds justify behavior.
The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller (p. 60)
여러 관계속의 이기심 보게 하심 감사
상처로 가려진 이기적인 마음 보게 하심 감사
John’s disciples came and took his body and buried it. Then they went and told Jesus. When Jesus heard what had happened, he withdrew by boat privately to a solitary place. Hearing of this, the crowds followed him on foot from the towns. When Jesus landed and saw a large crowd, he had compassion on them and healed their sick.
As
evening approached, the disciples came to him and said, “This is a
remote place, and it’s already getting late. Send the crowds away, so
they can go to the villages and buy themselves some food.”
Jesus replied, “They do not need to go away. You give them something to eat.”
“We have here only five loaves of bread and two fish,” they answered.
“Bring them here to me,” he said. And
he directed the people to sit down on the grass. Taking the five loaves
and the two fish and looking up to heaven, he gave thanks and broke the
loaves. Then he gave them to the disciples, and the disciples gave them to the people. They all ate and were satisfied, and the disciples picked up twelve basketfuls of broken pieces that were left over. The number of those who ate was about five thousand men, besides women and children.
Matthew 14:12-21
부르신 곳에서 나는 예배하네
어떤 상황에도 나는 예배하네
내가 걸어 갈 때 길이 되고
살아갈 때 삶이 되는
그 곳에서 예배하네
사랑하는 주님, 슬픔 가운데서도 절막한 저희를 향해 compassion을 가지셨던 주님, 당신의 외아들을 십자가에 못박으시는 고통 가운데서도 저희를 향한 구원을 이루셨던 주님, 그런 주님을 삶의 한절이라도 닮아가길 기도합니다. 주님 앞으로의 삶가운데 또 힘든 계절이 찾아올지라도 감정에 따라 살지 아니하고, 주님의 부르심을 기억하며, 주님이 맡기신 일에 흔들림 없이 임하기를 기도합니다. 부족한 저이지만 주님의 일가운데 사용하여주소서.
